I was banned for using an XRay Mod but i don't have one. I do have a clear block resource pack but only for lag reasons. my mc runs smoother without all the visuals. There are no rules against this that i have read so why was i banned?
Because that's xray moron. Get optifine mod and allocate more ram to mc. Also defragment your disk if you haven't in a long time. Running disk cleanup could help too.
Geez no need to be awful. Only trying to help you. By the way, I recommend u try this pack here as the clear pack is suspicious:
Your friend seems to think you knew you were cheating. Regardless, you were xraying so you will not be unbanned.